Friday, October 21, 2005

He Is Truly a Keeper!

I have the greatest husband! I have been one big ball of pregnancy hormones lately. I am certain the hardest thing about the second trimester is this emotional roller coaster I am on lately. And being so emotional, I have thought about and ruminated on and processed a lot of stuff. All of which as soon as I see my husband, I have the need to share it all with him, and as passionately as I feel at the moment, even when it has nothing to do with him. (My husband has gotten better over the years but really is not someone who likes to talk about feelings, etc. He prefers to just move on, and I am a talker. He can also be categorized as logical, even stoic at times, while I am emotional). So, despite his nature, he has been so wonderfully compassionate, and even when he didn't always understand or know what to say, he really and truly listened. I feel so supported, and I don't feel placated. And to add the cherry on top, this helps me feel even closer to him during this pregnancy, which is wonderful. Especially since I am feel disappointed with my mother lately, but that is a whole other can of worms! Oh, happy happy!

Sunday, October 16, 2005

Another Pregnancy Phenomenon

Well, it turns out I have discovered the trick to eating, and NOT being incredibly, miserably, disgustingly, uncomfortably full. (Not without being all of those things, several times over). See, I eat fast, I always have. My brother eats fast, my sister eats fast, my other brother eats fast, even my husband eats fast. It's just what we do. So, it turns out that eating fast and being pregnant do not mix well at all. Let me tell you, I suffer something huge afterwards. I eat so fast, I don't give my stomach time to register with my brain that I have had enough. I am eating the same amount I always have but I can't handle the way I used to. (Besides, now that I am no longer nauseous, I am often STARVING! Who can think of slowing down when I am that hungry?). Well, last night was the last straw. I ate brunch yesterday, which meant late breakfast, no lunch. Then I went to a kids' Halloween party, and by the time they served dinner I was famished. I mean 'keep your hands away from the food until I get some or I may eat them' kind of hungry. I ate and ate and ate, and then I was done. I was SO miserable, for hours. I felt so full, I could barely breathe. (I am sure some of you mothers out there know what I am talking about, all my girlfriends who have kids and who were at this party seemed to not be the slightest bit phased by my complaint). So, today, I have a different plan. While I ate brunch again today, I plan to eat little things all day long, and then when we have dinner I will do my very best to eat slow, and let my stomach and mind connect. I just cannot have another evening of suffering like last night. Wish me luck!

Sunday, October 09, 2005

A Perfect Fall Day

What a beautiful fall day today. The sun was bright, and air crisp, and comfortable. The leaves a beautiful palate of colors and the sky very blue. We had a nice day, just my husband and I. We needed it. We have been surrounded by people lately, family, etc. (Oh, and by a lot of sports on t.v. My husband likes just about anything)! Not that we are complaining, but sometimes a couple needs some time alone. So, we got up and went to our favorite little place for breakfast, then we came home and did some light weeding and planted a lot of bulbs, flowers we hope will bloom in the spring, just as our little baby is born. (My husband says spring will really be about birth for us, with the flowers and our new baby). Then we went to the cider mill. It was a really nice day, and lots of other people shared our idea. Boy, it was crowded. That's okay, while we waited in line we shared some cinnamon roasted almonds that my husband bought from the vendor there, yummy. And the fresh donuts and cider (just a sip for me) were really tasty. We ate them by the creek there. I really cherish days like these, I know that winter will be here before we know it, bringing along the cold. Our baby will be here too, and while I know our family will be enriched, I do cherish our time to do just as we please. There is something to be said for not having to account for anyone but ourselves. (But truth be told, I can't wait to be one of those families who takes the kids out to the cider mill or to breakfast). Anyway, happy Fall everyone!

Saturday, October 08, 2005

Since I've Been Gone............

Yes, I am still alive, and well. I know, it has been a very long time. Who knew pregnancy would be so exhausting and so consuming? Well, things are going just as they should. I am now officially 13 weeks pregnant. My nausea is going away, which is what they said would happen. My fatigue is not, and they said it would. Thing of interest to note since my last blog: we were able to see the baby during an ultrasound or two, once the baby was asleep on its head and another time it was really moving. So COOL! We also got to hear the heartbeat, that was pretty cool too. My husband has been coming along to my appointments thus far, and he has been really good about support. (This makes me happy of course).
Also, my husband's 40th is coming up, in November, and I wanted to do something really nice for him. But what to get the man who needs and wants nothing? (He really is a low-maintenance kind of guy). He already told me no parties, and certainly no surprise parties. He HATES attention. He is not much of a drinker either. So, I decided to take him on vacation. My husband does not prefer to go up north, or to go to Canada, or anywhere we can drive to, or anywhere as cool as here. He likes to fly to warm places and lay in the sun and read, and relax. So, that means more money. I really wanted to take him away, somewhere he would like, but I was worried about how he would feel about the money, since he talks about money all the time now, what with the up-coming expansion of our family. So, I did my research, and learned that Mexico was out of the question, and ended up with a 4 night trip to a resort in Florida. I had so much anxiety about how he would receive this. A. He hates surprises. B. He may hate the idea of me spending so much money without consulting him. C. I felt if I asked him ahead of time, he would say no (he does not have the need to be spoiled or taken care of). So, I did not ask him ahead of time, I booked it, and then gave him a card, a sort of invitation to celebrate his birthday, in one of his favorite places, with his favorite people (me and our unborn child), doing one of his favorite things (relaxing in the sun, and eating great food). I did not tell him exactly where, but he knew it was Florida. Well, much to my surprise, he accepted it fine, better, even, and he truly seemed touched that I was taking him on vacation for the first time. I was SO relieved. Well, lesson learned. I cannot tell you the anxiety I had and the sleep I lost, worried he would think I was spending frivolously, and unhappy I did not consult him. I was all ready to have to do damage control, and to "work through" stuff. It never happened, woohoo!
So, we leave Nov. 17, and come back Nov, 21, the day after his birthday. I planned it all. He will only miss one hockey game, which I knew he would tolerate. And, he will not be traveling on his birthday (the 20th). I want him to be in the sun, relaxing, and have a nice dinner, on his birthday. I checked his schedule for work (in his planner ) even to make sure he had nothing scheduled. (Turns out he does for the 21st but he did not write it in his book, and he will have someone cover this case for him). I hope this place is nice, it is a 4-star place, and there were many reviews I read, most good, but definitely some bad. We have a tropical-view room, whatever that means. Regardless, I hope the weather will be nice, because we will be at the pool and or beach everyday. I can't wait. Then, when we return, a few short days later is Thanksgiving. That will make for a really short work week. Another bonus!

I promise not to be gone so long this time before my next entry!

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